THE REDFLAG BANK
Discover the signs that protect your heart — and the ones that help it grow
About The RedFlag Bank
Assalamu alaykum sister,
The marriage search can feel exhausting for Muslim women over 30 who have faced setbacks and disappointments. That's why I created The RedFlag Bank a growing list of red flags to avoid and green flags to value when courting men.
I've started the list, but this is a community space where you can also add your own insights and learn from the experiences of other women. Together, we're building a resource to help each other navigate this journey with wisdom and confidence.
Red Flags
Not every connection is what it appears to be. The Red Flag Bank is a growing, community-driven space where Muslim women share the warning signs they've experienced while courting for marriage. These insights help you recognise unhealthy behaviours, emotional inconsistencies, and long-term compatibility risks—before getting deeply involved. Browse the list, contribute your own red flags, and help strengthen a sisterhood built on honesty, awareness, and emotional safety.
Green Flags
Good men do exist—and their qualities deserve to be recognised. The Green Flag Bank highlights positive traits, healthy behaviours, and faith-aligned qualities that support secure, respectful, and intentional relationships.
Read through the growing list, add your own observations, and help empower other women to recognise the signs of emotional maturity, reliability, and genuine commitment.
What You Get
Everything you need to navigate your marriage search with confidence, clarity, and support
Resource & Community
Join a thriving community where you can share insights, learn from others, and contribute to our collective wisdom
Guidance & Coaching
Personalized support to help you heal, rebuild confidence, and gain clarity for making empowered decisions
Self-Assessment Training
Free comprehensive training delivered to your inbox to help you evaluate compatibility with confidence
Sisterhood Support
Connect with like-minded Muslim women who truly understand your journey and provide genuine support
Courtship Chronicle Podcast
Alongside The RedFlag Bank, I also host a YouTube podcast series called Courtship Chronicle. In this series, I share real conversations, reflections, and practical guidance on navigating the marriage journey with faith, wisdom, and confidence.
Episodes One and Two are already live, with more episodes on the way.
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